There comes a time in everyone’s life when you feel as if
your life is slipping away from your hands, as if you have no control over
anything anymore. As if you are on autopilot. You are there, you are doing everything,
even making decisions, but somehow you feel that you are not the one to
actually make them. As if, you are too lazy to decide anything on your own so
have let the circumstances shape your daily existence. And you are tired. You
are so freaking tired all the time that you hardly care about the consequences
anymore. And the worst part is, you know all this, you feel it every day, every
moment, but you are too powerless, bound in the grip of your extreme exhaustion
to care. And as a result you see every good thing in your life, things you were
proud of in you getting away from you gradually.
So, what do you do in such case? You either need a massive
shock to wake up, or if God’s kind, he sends you home to be with people
who can knock some sense into you. Fortunately, both has happened to me. And I’m
still reeling. I am still trying to figure out, still trying to take the reins
of life back in my hands.
How am I planning on doing it? Here are the steps I followed
and recommend you follow:
1.
List down everything that went wrong.
This list has to be comprehensive, no
shortcuts. Write down every single detail you felt wasn’t right. For e.g. If you
stopped waking up early in the morning, write in detail about it as to why you
think it happened. Maybe you went to sleep late because of partying too hard,
or maybe you had insomnia.
2.
List the reasons for why it all went wrong.
Taking our previous e.g. dwell on why you
went to sleep late. If you partied hard, which is uncharacteristic for you, why
you did so? Did you feel lonely? Were you just trying to get a little
experience? Or what if you tried hard every night to fall asleep, but your darn
insomnia wouldn’t let you? Why did you have insomnia in the first place? Are
you stressed? Is there ne particular thought eating away at you?
Like this, you analyze… well, I guess you
get the idea.
3.
List out the areas where you wanna get your
control back.
Yes, this is where you explain and try to
explore your own heart and mind to see what are the things you really want.
This is where you sweep away the useless ones and keep only the best habits and
goals in your life. Be careful when you make this list, and make it as long as
you can- priority wise. You should write down everything we wish for in our
lives- even if it’s just to own a pair great heels, we will work on how to
achieve those goals later.
After you are done with these 3 Lists, you start with your
basic 3 D’s o’ success + 1. The 4 D’s would be:
1.
Direction- You have already started it. The
moment you started to List out your goals, you gave yourself a direction or
multiple, to go towards. Now we just have to work on going in those directions
with the help of the other 3 D’s.
2.
Determination- Wake up every morning and remind yourself
of the Lists you created, how you were feeling when you were writing them down.
That feeling would remind you why you wanna go through all the hassle of waking
up early in the morning.
3.
Dedication- Stick to it. Stick to the List and
invent along the way as required, always remembering the Direction. If you
wanna become an early riser, keep that in mind every night when you g to sleep.
And remind yourself how wonderful you feel when you wake up early and go outside
and soak up what the nature has to offer you, and that nothing surpasses that.
4.
Discipline- Now this is where I really suck at. Using
an excuse like Aries are incapable of discipline is absolute bullshit. Would that
mean, there is no Aries in the Armies of any of the countries in the world? For
some, discipline comes naturally, like the Germans. For others, you have force
it, for people like me. As long as their fathers were behind them with a stick,
we were doing ok, the moment it stopped, we went back to bed. Do, no matter how
crappy you feel, come hail or rain, wake up early.
So, that’s it for today. I am
gonna start putting this in practice starting today. I am gonna keep these 4 D’s
somewhere in my vicinity where I can get reminded of them all the time. Maybe
my mobile phone wallpaper, or stick it over my writing table. But I’m gonna go
to sleep now, remembering that I wanna wake up early tomorrow! I will be back
to tell you what progress I have made later. Wish me luck!
