When you are asked for an unwanted advice....

Ever been in a situation when someone asks for your advice, but doesn't really want it? They ask just for the sake of it, or to make themselves feel as if its a very big decision they are going to make. Don't know what goes on in their minds when they do such a thing, but it generally irritates the hell out of the poor unwanted advisor.
Its worst when you can see that the person doesn't really want it. You neither can flip them off nor do you feel like saying what you really think about it.  When you do try to flip them off by telling them what they want to hear from you, they get offended and tell you that you don't care about them and that you should respect the fact that they are asking for your advice. Well, listening to such words, you relent, and you start telling them what you really feel- which obviously is miles away from what they want to hear. Quite patently, they get offended anyway and tell you that they are sorry that they ever asked your opinion. And that's when you really get pissed off. If you are a quiet sort or are not in the mood to make a big issue out of it, you keep quiet and either brush it off or keep it to yourself and work yourself up about it. On the other hand, if you are in no mood to be complacent, you give them a piece of your mind, and the whole issue somehow becomes your fault; because they were the ones who first came to you for advice ( which, according to them, was a sign of respect for your opinions) and you, instead of giving them a good one, are rowing about their motives.
So, what is the way to deal with such situations, when no matter you open your mouth, or not, you get in a pickle anyway???

Relationships

Well, today I am not going to talk about the usual man-woman relationship, advices and discussions about which are so ubiquitous. Instead, I'd wanna talk about the everyday relations that we are in. 
First, I would start with our relationship with parents. I think this is the most complicated relationship that one can ever have, and at the same time it is the simplest and the most natural relationship that can ever be-mostly owing to its duration. Parents are the first relation that we ever be in, and it goes through so many facets, with time. It starts with the total innocent surrender and trust of childhood, goes into the rebellion of teenage, acceptance, understanding of our youth and finally circles back to the total trust by the end of it. 
Next, our teachers. Back in school, remember, how we used to label the teachers- as to who is soft, who is dangerous, who is to be absolutely avoided, and who is the one who can always be dependent on to be the fair? No matter how those teachers back in our school days or college days were, all of them have affected our lives.
Our friends. Remember that friend, who helped you quietly when everyone else was laughing at you, or would tell you the harsh truth on your face when you least want to hear it, or the one who curses you for yours stupid plan but helps you anyway just because you are a friend? You end up becoming best friends. And that friend, who was the most stylish, a tad more mature than you, always sniggering at you, and too self confident to be comfortable for you? You don't understand it then, you have this feeling of inadequacy, but later you understand that all those nights when you fell asleep worrying about his/her panache, all those tears in the bathroom, were all waste of time?? You grow up and realize you are so much better off than them. Now, that is also a relationship- one which makes you understand the difference between right and wrong, which stuff is important and which is not.
And then, comes the romantic relationships. Now, there is so much you can say about them, that people since time immemorial have started and still they haven't finished saying about it- and nor will they ever. So, I'd not even try.
Although these relationships have different colors and tenures, somewhere all of them are same. Somewhere, there is always a relation of give and take- even with our parents. With our friends, definitely, and with everyone else we come across. The autowalla, our boss, your colleague, your regular grocery store-everywhere. Somewhere, we all think alike, and behave alike, and yet, they are so very different from each other. That's the reason you can label someone s your friend and some as mere acquaintances, even if you are spending half an hour together smoking outside your office. When you think about it, the word "relation" defines so much, that its not even possible to describe all of them. And since, our lives are an aggregate of these various relationships, we really live such a colorful life-every minute of it....

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